i've got alot of think to tell but i can't write it down because my head and my hand or tongue is not connected that well
and i am an introvert person<=== it's not my fault or my parents but it's just the way it is.. the way God wants it for me..
Technically, middle children are those who are born in between two or more siblings. Being born in between is a bigger problem than what we think. Before we cite the characteristics of middle children, let’s take a brief view of the some birth order traits, here goes. The eldest child is theleader, often he has strong decisive qualities that allow him to make firm decisions. This may be due to the expectations and special attention given to him by his parents. The youngest child is often lax and confident, probably the loudest and sometimes spoiled because the parents have used up their energies disciplining the others. The youngest is not much pressured than the eldest but never the less, she is given the attention she deserves. The middle child is then left with the biggest problem, what role could he/she take in the family?
The middle child, unlike the others, is not given much attention. The following are just some characteristics that define middle children. Note that not all of them or maybe even none may be observed in middle children. Middle children have low self-esteem. They need support for anything they do, sometimes talents are wasted when they do not pursue their dreams. Middle children have a feeling of emptiness.They are always lonely and are jealous of others. This is a very broad trait, since it affects every aspect of their lives. They may be a little weird, unfriendly and even worse, psychotic because of this feeling of emptiness. The two traits mentioned above can interact differently with different personalities. For example, an introvert middle child may prove to be more depressed and lonely than the extrovert middle child. There are a lot of possibilities for middle children, but the results are mostly negative. (taken from http://middlechildpersonality.com)
yeah it's absolutely true for me, being the middle child really sucks
I am not generalizing this statement, because middle child syndrome is very real. It is a condition that continues to affect millions of people around the world, including me.
I hate my middle child personality, it is like a disease inside me. I have never felt I truly belonged. All the attention were given to the first and last child. I feel that everything I do goes unnoticed, sometimes it seems that I was not intended to be part of the family. Middle children are the black sheep of the family. Middle children are the outcasts. Yes, I was always aware of middle child personality, they say that middle children are underachievers and inferior compare to our siblings. I personally do not believe this. Since I was a kid, I was driven to achieve things just to be noticed. While being successful at being praised and honored, I still didn’t feel loved at all.
I think middle children are really talented individuals. Well, I’m not a professional artist, but I can say that I’m pretty artistic compared to my other siblings. But still, I always feel that there is something lacking, that feeling prevents me from pursuing my dreams and ambitions. I feel that before I can live my life, I must first move on from the past, which is very hard to do. I hope that all these will pass, and one day I will look at myself and be proud of who I am and what I have achieved, not for the acceptance of others, but for myself.
I strongly believe that good parenting must be practiced by all aspiring parents. In this way, unloved children like me would not continue to suffer. Middle children deserve better.
But being a middle child is not only all cons, middle children are also known for their determination and passion. Here is a short list of famous middle children: Bill Gates, Madonna, Donald Trump, Princess Diana, etc. After hearing these big names, there is simply no excuse for you to be depressed.
So what can you do to move on?
First, forget about the past. Do not always bring back sad and painful memories. Instead, think of joyful memories in your childhood. Build on these thoughts and try to live a happy life.
Second, start with yourself. Do not expect everyone to immediately change to fit your needs. You should be the first to show them that you have changed. Try to show them that you care, and you will be rewarded a hundredfold.
Lastly, always put God in the center of your life. He is always there, always looking after you. Begin each day by praying, thanking God for all the gifts you have received from Him.
After following these guidelines, all you have to do is wait and you will see that everything and everyone around you will soon begin to change.
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“The more difficulties one has to encounter, within and without, the more significant and the higher in inspiration his life will be.”
Horace Bushnell
poems from someone
Anak tengah, anak tengah…
Oleh Dian Yunita,
Dia pemberontak…
Ya, dia anak tengah
Dia lari lagi dari rumah..
Ya, dia anak tengah
Dia selalu merasa dibedakan…
Ya, dia anak tengah
Dia selalu membuat ceritanya sendiri
Ya, dia anak tengah
Dia antara ada dan tiada
Ya, dia anak tengah
Dia bisa kesana, bisa kesini
Ya, dia anak tengah
Dia setengah-setengah
Ya, dia anak tengah
Ough…anak tengah…anak tengah…
but i think i am lucky, because God made me the most intelligent child among my brothers
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